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Personal Growth

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Managing Anxiety: My Personal Story of Coping With Stress

Managing Anxiety: My Personal Story of Coping With Stress

People are experiencing higher levels of anxiety, in our society today, than ever before. So I want to offer you a powerful process for managing anxiety by sharing a personal story from early in my career. A Daunting Request I had just graduated from the University of Minnesota with my Ph.D. in counseling psychology and […]

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Want to Feel Better? Face Your Negative Feelings

Want to Feel Better? Face Your Negative Feelings

We want to run from our negative feelings and yet by facing them, we grow in resilience and emotional intelligence.

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Small and Simple Decisions that Make a Big Difference

Small and Simple Decisions that Make a Big Difference

It is a Saturday evening around 5:30 and I’m facing a decision. It’s not a life-changing decision but rather a little decision about how I’ll handle the evening. Relatively minor, in the big scheme of things, but one which has consequences. I feel pretty lousy. Although normally healthy, I’ve been assaulted by cold and flu-like […]

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Slower is Faster-My New Year’s Mantra

Slower is Faster-My New Year’s Mantra

Looking back It’s hard to believe it’s the end of another year. Time seems to fly by so quickly. And so I’m looking back, thinking about where I’ve been, what I’ve experienced and accomplished this past year and anticipating a new year. What will this new year bring? (Frankly, some of it is totally outside […]

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A Story of Gratitude

A Story of Gratitude

In my studies of gratitude, I came across a beautiful story of gratitude told by Maureen Deuterma. It offers a perspective of what matter most. Email from a Friend I received an email from a friend of mine today sharing the good news that he had been promoted to vice president in a prestigious company. […]

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How to Change Your Mental State

How to Change Your Mental State

I remember a Peanuts cartoon from years back. Here’s Charlie Brown, shoulders slumped, head down and arms at his side as Lucy approached. He says to Lucy, “This is my depressed stance. When you’re depressed it makes a lot of difference in how you stand. The worst thing you can do is straighten up and […]

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The Goal of Managing Stress—Accessing Your Wise Mind

The Goal of Managing Stress—Accessing Your Wise Mind

I my last article I talked about how our brains and bodies respond to stress. Today I want to explore the goal of stress management which is achieving an optimal state of arousal in the middle of a threat. As you can see from this diagram, the mind can be in optimal arousal (necessary to […]

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The Stress Response: How the Brain Works

The Stress Response: How the Brain Works

Stress is our natural response to a situation or event that we perceive as challenging, even threatening. Stress is good insofar as it motivates us to take positive action or prompts us to adapt to a threat. But it can become harmful when we lack the confidence or ability to adapt in a healthy way. […]

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